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Search results for tag #adhd

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[?]Straybun [she/her] » 🌐
@purplerabbit@goo.dgirl.gay

Talking about what the mix of ADHD and Autism (AuDHD) does to me, what overstiumlation and understimulation feels like. Extra cranky [SENSITIVE CONTENT]

People don't understand what makes ADHD special because most people are perfectly content being ableist as all hell. I want to slap the fuck out of people saying shit along the lines of: "ADHD doesn't exist because I get bored too."

I don't get bored. I get understimulated. Your mild inconvenience is my mental torture. You look for something to do, you start to doomscroll, you get a bit sad. I want to fucking scream and it's the easily the gentlest of the negative things I want to do just to eliviate the feeling. I feel this disgusting pain diffused throughout my body and I want to dislocate said pain in anyway I can.

Some of us, myself included, get the treat of being AuDHD, so ADHD and autistic. Autism for me is more about overstimulation. When I'm understimulated, I feel overstimulated in a fucked up, "image negative" sort of way that I can't even begin to put into words. Sometimes I crumble screaming onto the floor because everything is too loud, sometimes it's because everything is too quiet.

AuDHD for me, is living my life in a constant balance, where I have to tread carefully depending on what limits are available to me today, so that I don't feel too much but also don't feel too little. I need to stay in the middle somehow, because if I don't, it feels like you're about to mentally self-combust.

If I stay too long in one extreme or another, I get a meltdown, one flavored "there is too much lights" [overstiumlation] and one flavored "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH" [understimulation]. The latter is extra special you see because, the brain is so desperate for stimulation that it's willing to put itself through this amount of bullshit which will likely result in overstimulation, which means that, once I'm done with the first meltdown, don't go too far, there is more where that came from!

.... CAN YOU FEEL THAT I'M UNDERSTIMULATED AS ALL HELL RIGHT NOW OR NO? :neobun_0_0:

#autism #adhd #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #mentalhealth

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    [?]Ace of Cosmic Space🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍ [He/they] » 🌐
    @aceofcosmicspace@lgbtqia.space

    My Autism: okay! Let's go! Focus! Errands to run! Let's do it! We've got this!

    My ADHD, on my phone, leaving me sitting on the bed wearing pants and one sock: do penguins have knees

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      [?]brainjoos » 🌐
      @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

      When you have ADHD, waiting for a bus feels like an eternity but scrolling through TikTok feels like it flew by in seconds.

      This is because people with ADHD often experience 'time blindness,' making them hyper-aware of some moments while others blur together.

      brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

      This is because people with ADHD often experience 'time blindness,' making them hyper-aware of some moments while others blur together.

      Alt...This is because people with ADHD often experience 'time blindness,' making them hyper-aware of some moments while others blur together.

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        [?]brainjoos » 🌐
        @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

        Tired of people thinking you're just lazy? Explain to them that executive dysfunction means your brain's not quite on the same page as your to-do list 😊

        Understanding that executive dysfunction isn't a lack of motivation can help reduce stress and improve self-esteem 🤔

        MentalHealth ADHD

        brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

        Understanding that executive dysfunction isn't a lack of motivation can help reduce stress and improve self-esteem 🤔

        Alt...Understanding that executive dysfunction isn't a lack of motivation can help reduce stress and improve self-esteem 🤔

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          [?]DB 🌱💦 [She / Her] » 🌐
          @dbattistella@mstdn.ca

          5. You judge yourself by effort while others judge by experience.  You remember the mental effort, the intentions, and the internal battle. The people around you remember whether you showed up, followed through, and stayed present.

          Alt...5. You judge yourself by effort while others judge by experience.  You remember the mental effort, the intentions, and the internal battle. The people around you remember whether you showed up, followed through, and stayed present.

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            [?]DB 🌱💦 [She / Her] » 🌐
            @dbattistella@mstdn.ca

            People with ADHD often don't realize how their everyday behaviour is perceived by others.

            1. You think people see your intentions  You know how much you care. You know what you meant to do. You know how hard you're trying.  But other people can only judge what they consistently experience.

            Alt...1. You think people see your intentions  You know how much you care. You know what you meant to do. You know how hard you're trying.  But other people can only judge what they consistently experience.

            2. You believe "later" feels the same to everyone  You'll reply later. You'll handle it later. You'll make time later.  What feels like a delay to you can feel like a lack of priority to someone else.

            Alt...2. You believe "later" feels the same to everyone  You'll reply later. You'll handle it later. You'll make time later.  What feels like a delay to you can feel like a lack of priority to someone else.

            3. You mistake familiarity for understanding.  You assume the people closest to you understand your struggles, your distractions, and your way of operating.  Often, they only see the behaviour - not the reason behind it.

            Alt...3. You mistake familiarity for understanding.  You assume the people closest to you understand your struggles, your distractions, and your way of operating.  Often, they only see the behaviour - not the reason behind it.

            4. You don't notice how inconsistency affects trust.  When you're focused, you're all in. When you're overwhelmed, you disappear.  The shift feels normal to you, but confusing to the people trying to rely on you.

            Alt...4. You don't notice how inconsistency affects trust.  When you're focused, you're all in. When you're overwhelmed, you disappear.  The shift feels normal to you, but confusing to the people trying to rely on you.

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              [?]➴➴➴Æ🜔Ɲ.Ƈꭚ⍴𝔥єɼ👩🏻‍💻 » 🌐
              @AeonCypher@lgbtqia.space

              Of course it's as fuck, but that doesn't matter, right? It's more important to be against the you don't understand than to consider people?

              See also: plastic bag bans and poor people, straws and disabled people, etc...

              I of course have talked about how is for my , but I also know that a ton of you don't actually believe ADHD is a disability in spite of whatever lip service you give.

              I know this because I know exactly how people treat me.

              What you're not considering is that technology is now critical for speech to text, and is enormously helpful in general for people who have difficulty typing because of things like blindness or digit immobility.

              I know some asshole is going to come here and say that they're disabled or have ADHD... blah blah blah.

              Motherfucker, just because your experience with your disability isn't affected in this way doesn't mean no one else is...

              12/

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                [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                Feeling like a fraud even though you're killing it? You're not alone, high achievers with ADHD. It's a thing called imposter syndrome. BrainJoos can help track your wins so you remember them.

                Studies show that people with ADHD are often their own harshest critics. Remember to be kind to yourself!

                brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                Studies show that people with ADHD are often their own harshest critics. Remember to be kind to yourself!

                Alt...Studies show that people with ADHD are often their own harshest critics. Remember to be kind to yourself!

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                  [?]น้อย คงคะดี » 🌐
                  @noy@mastodon.world

                  Adding / to

                  Black-and-white ink sketch of a long, narrow corridor with repeating rectangular frames, deep shadows, and jagged lines

                  Alt...Black-and-white ink sketch of a long, narrow corridor with repeating rectangular frames, deep shadows, and jagged lines

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                    [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                    @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                    Ever wonder if your screen time is frying your brain? Latest studies suggest it's not all bad. Moderate use can even boost cognitive function! 📱💡

                    But remember, quality over quantity - a bit of social media or gaming can be as beneficial as reading a book. Balance is key! 🎮📚

                    brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                    But remember, quality over quantity - a bit of social media or gaming can be as beneficial as reading a book. Balance is key! 🎮📚

                    Alt...But remember, quality over quantity - a bit of social media or gaming can be as beneficial as reading a book. Balance is key! 🎮📚

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                      [?]Trike Homard » 🌐
                      @trike@hachyderm.io

                      New toot, since I switched instances:

                      I'm Mike. He/him, il/lui. I live on unceded and unsurrendered Wolastoqey territory. I have . I'm a , and I code a little in . I write fiction and poetry on the side. I speak English, French, and a bit of Gaelic. I play and sometimes . I like , , , , , etc.

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                        [?]Straybun [she/her] » 🌐
                        @purplerabbit@goo.dgirl.gay

                        About my experiences with autism / ADHD / AuDHD, otherization and ableism [SENSITIVE CONTENT]

                        RE : https://autistics.life/@KaCi/117160610977305548
                        post by @KaCi

                        The reason why you seem to struggle twice as hard, is because you really do struggle twice as hard. It's a statement that a lot of people don't want to give us.

                        By trying to not otherize me, neurotypical people have otherized me all my life, I never got the credits I deserved. I always did twice as much as I felt like I could, to be told that I did twice as less. I was consistently accused with phrases like: "It's not that you can't, it's that you don't want to." when I failed something after giving it all because my all was a fraction of what everybody else had in them. That especially, utterly destroyed my sense of self.

                        There is a misplaced fear that it would trap us in it but really, after a lifetime of unacknowledged struggle and pain, it's so relieving to have someone telling you that not only you are not the problem, but that you're not a problem at all.

                        When someone acknowledge that about me, my suffering becomes real. And when it becomes real, it becomes something tangible, something that matters, and that merits care.

                        #neurodivergent #neuroatypical #autism #actuallyautistic #adhd #AuDHD

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                          [?]DB 🌱💦 [She / Her] » 🌐
                          @dbattistella@mstdn.ca

                          Criticism and shame are the biggest enemies for people with ADHD.

                          isn’t a character flaw. It’s a different way the brain processes attention, emotions, energy, and the world.

                          If you love someone with ADHD, you need to watch this, and share it with others in your life.

                          C: Dr. Evelet Sequeira

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                            [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                            @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                            Hey friends, building a routine can feel like herding cats. Start small and be flexible! 🐱✨

                            Tools like BrainJoos can help track your patterns and make adjustments easier.

                            MentalHealth ADHD Neurodivergent

                            brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                            Tools like BrainJoos can help track your patterns and make adjustments easier.

                            Alt...Tools like BrainJoos can help track your patterns and make adjustments easier.

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                              [?]marc with a C🇨🇦 » 🌐
                              @marcwithac@mstdn.ca

                              Quiet weekend mornings,
                              before the eventuality of fulfilling responsibilities,
                              I gift my mind with freedom
                              to wander unfettered
                              between fancies, figments, fitments and fixin’s.

                              Quiet, disorderly peace

                              A cozy living room scene featuring a wooden coffee table with a speckled white mug marked "Camp Evergreen," a pair of glasses, and a pen. In the background, a guitar leans against a couch, and bookshelves filled with books

                              Alt...A cozy living room scene featuring a wooden coffee table with a speckled white mug marked "Camp Evergreen," a pair of glasses, and a pen. In the background, a guitar leans against a couch, and bookshelves filled with books

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                                [?]Owl Eyes Hoo » 🌐
                                @d1@autistics.life

                                @autistics
                                Announcement: multiplayer casual game today (Sat) for 4 hours in the late afternoon to evening (North America). That's in about 8.5 hours from now.

                                Voxelibre is a free and crafting and mining voxel game, available in the game engine. :blob_cat_heart:

                                Damage has been turned off. People with , or are invited. We also have a group for game-related discussion. More details here: docs.autis.toque.im/
                                (Note: You can join with pretty much any device which **isn't** an iPad/iPhone)

                                Alt...Voxelibre gameplay. Shows a high view with a landscape far below, then a house and a waterfall.

                                  [?]Morothar ☿ » 🌐
                                  @morothar@universeodon.com

                                  My dear AuDHD / ADHD / autistic fellows, do you have any experience with "mindfulness"? You know, the stuff where whole books exist about being in the moment, breathing, etc.? I don't yet know much about it and before I deep-dive into it, I want to know from you!

                                  Is it useful? Or is it just another thing that seems to be advice from neurotypicals for neurotypicals?

                                  @actuallyadhd
                                  @autistics

                                    [?]ZenHeathen 🇨🇦 [He/Him/His] » 🌐
                                    @ZenHeathen@beige.party

                                    I'm tired of being smarter than my computer. I'm tired of *having to be* smarter than my computer.

                                    Living with and trying to navigate the world has required me to learn so many new things, including the word "interoception". I have now had to require my computer to learn the word interoception, because my spellcheck had no idea it existed.

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                                      [?]Raphael Kabo [he/him] » 🌐
                                      @lown@hachyderm.io

                                      I just found this sticker in my wallet. I've been meaning to put it on my laptop since . Something something irony

                                      A sticker that says 'I have so much ADHD it should be called AD4K'

                                      Alt...A sticker that says 'I have so much ADHD it should be called AD4K'

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                                        [?]DB 🌱💦 [She / Her] » 🌐
                                        @dbattistella@mstdn.ca

                                        Here are 5 great tips to break the shame cycle that comes from living with :

                                        c: adhdthriversss on IG

                                        1. "Oops" Dance: When you make a mistake, do a 5- second silly dance. Brain can’t maintain shame while body is doing something ridiculous. 2. Friend Rule: Ask yourself: "Would | say this to my best friend if they made this mistake?" If the answer is no, you are not allowed from saying it to yourself.

                                        Alt...1. "Oops" Dance: When you make a mistake, do a 5- second silly dance. Brain can’t maintain shame while body is doing something ridiculous. 2. Friend Rule: Ask yourself: "Would | say this to my best friend if they made this mistake?" If the answer is no, you are not allowed from saying it to yourself.

                                        3. Shame Bin: Literally write the mean thought on a piece of paper, crumble it up, and throw it in the trash. The physical act of "tossing" the thought tells your brain it's no longer useful. 4. "Third-Person" Narration: Talk to yourself like a documentary narrator: "| am noticing that [Your Name] is feeling very rejected right now because of a typo." This frees YOU from the feeling.

                                        Alt...3. Shame Bin: Literally write the mean thought on a piece of paper, crumble it up, and throw it in the trash. The physical act of "tossing" the thought tells your brain it's no longer useful. 4. "Third-Person" Narration: Talk to yourself like a documentary narrator: "| am noticing that [Your Name] is feeling very rejected right now because of a typo." This frees YOU from the feeling.

                                        5. "B-Minus" Goal: Intentionally do one easy task at a "B- minus" level. Show your brain that the world is fine when you aren't perfect. WHY THIS HELPS: These techniques work because they use Cognitive Defusion. When you treat your thoughts as apart from yourself, you stop the emotional "spill" and can observe the mistake without letting it ruin your self-worth. It is the cruelest ADHD part...

                                        Alt...5. "B-Minus" Goal: Intentionally do one easy task at a "B- minus" level. Show your brain that the world is fine when you aren't perfect. WHY THIS HELPS: These techniques work because they use Cognitive Defusion. When you treat your thoughts as apart from yourself, you stop the emotional "spill" and can observe the mistake without letting it ruin your self-worth. It is the cruelest ADHD part...

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                                          [?]DB 🌱💦 [She / Her] » 🌐
                                          @dbattistella@mstdn.ca

                                          When you go to light a birthday cake and you almost end up burning down the house! 😂

                                            [?]Imani [She/They] » 🌐
                                            @imanijoy@mastodon.social

                                            Who else here discovered later in life that they were never an introvert, they were simply a neurodivergent extrovert who was depleted from constant masking in social environments?

                                            It can't just be me.

                                              [?]Emeritus Prof. Christopher May » 🌐
                                              @ChrisMayLA6@mastodon.me.uk

                                              Unsurprisingly new providers of ADHD assessments & services are responding to ballooning demand by raising prices; and new 'market' entrants have scant experience or established expertise.

                                              The problem is that the private sector is focussed on short-term earning opportunities, while the long-term solutions (mostly delivered by the NHS) are being underfunded & overwhelmed.

                                              The mental health crisis around ADHD is becoming ever more serious!


                                              bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cy4zgp

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                                                [?]Djumaka » 🌐
                                                @djumaka@phpc.social

                                                I just realized I have hard time formulating in a brief and systematic way what exactly do I check during a code review. I had a similar issue when I had to setup a checklist for the interview processes... With my abstract mind all runs on "it doesn't fit". If I try to make a checklist, it becomes and excessive crap that even I don't follow.

                                                Doesn't click well when you try to share it with others...

                                                Do you have any similar experiences and how do you manage?

                                                  [?]Badass Britt :mastodon_lgbt: [She/Her] » 🌐
                                                  @britt@mstdn.games

                                                  I got exactly one photo of the lunar eclipse tonight before my phone battery 🪫 died. 😆

                                                  planning at its finest, I tell ya!

                                                  Photo of a lunar eclipse at around 90%

                                                  Alt...Photo of a lunar eclipse at around 90%

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                                                    [?]Murdoc Addams 🧛🏻:ri: 🇨🇦 » 🌐
                                                    @murdoc@autistics.life

                                                    @britt
                                                    Speaking of , I had forgotten about it, even though I had a tab open specifically about it today, until I saw your post. 😆 So thanks!

                                                    I went out to look but, overcast->thunderstorm. 😢

                                                    But on the plus side, cool thunderstorm! Lightening every second or two. If it was any closer it'd be what I call "horror movie" style. :blob_cat_aww: I even caught some on video, but then the rain picked up and chased me inside.

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                                                      [?]bnewso » 🌐
                                                      @bnewso@mastodon.world

                                                      Writing
                                                      🚨 BREAKING: NHS BOSSES WARN OF CHAOS IN ADHD & AUTISM CARE

                                                      Serious concerns are being raised over pressure on NHS services, with bosses warning that patients could face further disruption and delays.

                                                      🔎 Read the full BNEWSO report:
                                                      bnewso.com/2026/08/us-bulletin

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                                                        [?]Drew 🇵🇭 » 🌐
                                                        @drewph@c.im

                                                        A couple of weeks ago I removed from my reader because I was disgusted at the way it fawned over the recent tabloid TV dumpster fire about .

                                                        I have a few categories in my RSS app, including , , and , but my category is now empty. The Guardian was the last mainstream global media feed I had been willing to tolerate.

                                                        And I've found I really don't miss it. "But you should stay informed!" Nah. No longer interested. My life and mental health are significantly improved by not knowing or being pressured to care about things that don't directly involve me.

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                                                          [?]c0debabe, union raccoon [They/them] » 🌐
                                                          @c0debabe@masto.hackers.town

                                                          Anyone have any ADHD friendly fitness tips or resources?

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                                                            [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                                                            @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                                                            Hey ADHD fam, here's the deal with stimulants. They're not just for focus - they can actually help calm those racing thoughts too!

                                                            Research shows that medications like Ritalin and Adderall improve cognitive control in ADHD brains by modulating neurotransmitters, leading to better emotional regulation as well.

                                                            MentalHealth ADHD

                                                            brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                                                            Research shows that medications like Ritalin and Adderall improve cognitive control in ADHD brains by modulating neurotransmitters, leading to better emotional regulation as well. #Neurodivergent

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                                                              [?]DB 🌱💦 [She / Her] » 🌐
                                                              @dbattistella@mstdn.ca

                                                              What verbal instructions sound like to someone with ADHD.

                                                              C: @softadhd

                                                              Alt...Text over screen reads: POV me trying to process important information as an ADHDer *stars emoji*

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                                                                [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                                                                @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                                                                Managing emotions can be like wrangling a herd of cats, but these tools are like a magical cat whisperer for your brain. 🐱✨

                                                                Try mindfulness apps or journaling to see which one works best for you.

                                                                brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                                                                Try mindfulness apps or journaling to see which one works best for you. #MentalHealth #ADHD

                                                                Alt...Try mindfulness apps or journaling to see which one works best for you. #MentalHealth #ADHD

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                                                                  [?]Itskilian 🏳️‍🌈 [He/Him] » 🌐
                                                                  @Itskilian@gaygeek.social

                                                                  Me not knowing that my prescription has an expiration date. Doc told me it was fine but apparently not. Sigh.

                                                                  Still cute though. :blahaj_face:

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                                                                    [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                                                                    @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                                                                    When RSD strikes, criticism feels like a punch in the gut. But remember, it's just feedback, not rejection.

                                                                    Studies show that people with ADHD are more sensitive to criticism due to RSD, making it crucial to practice self-compassion and mindful responses. BrainJoos can help track patterns of how you react.

                                                                    brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                                                                    Studies show that people with ADHD are more sensitive to criticism due to RSD, making it crucial to practice self-compassion and mindful responses. BrainJoos can help track patterns of how you react.

                                                                    Alt...Studies show that people with ADHD are more sensitive to criticism due to RSD, making it crucial to practice self-compassion and mindful responses. BrainJoos can help track patterns of how you react.

                                                                      [?]FuyuhikoDate » 🌐
                                                                      @FuyuhikoDate@feddit.org

                                                                      real

                                                                      cross-posted from: lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/47101901

                                                                      real

                                                                      Alt...real

                                                                      (https://lemmy.world/c/adhd)

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                                                                      [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                                                                      @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                                                                      Got ADHD or just can't turn your brain off? Try these sleep hacks: Dark room, white noise, and a bedtime routine. Your brain will thank you!

                                                                      Research shows that a consistent bedtime routine can improve the quality of sleep for those with ADHD (Smith et al., 2019).

                                                                      brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                                                                      Research shows that a consistent bedtime routine can improve the quality of sleep for those with ADHD (Smith et al., 2019).

                                                                      Alt...Research shows that a consistent bedtime routine can improve the quality of sleep for those with ADHD (Smith et al., 2019).

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                                                                        [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                                                                        @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                                                                        Ever feel like you're just pretending to know what you're doing? You're not alone. High achievers with ADHD often struggle with imposter syndrome because our brains are wired for novelty, always seeking the next challenge.

                                                                        That's exactly the kind of thing BrainJoos was built for - tracking your achievements and patterns can help validate your progress!

                                                                        brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                                                                        That's exactly the kind of thing BrainJoos was built for - tracking your achievements and patterns can help validate your progress!

                                                                        Alt...That's exactly the kind of thing BrainJoos was built for - tracking your achievements and patterns can help validate your progress!

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                                                                          [?]brainjoos » 🌐
                                                                          @brainjoos@mstdn.wopr.systems

                                                                          Knowing the difference between burnout and depression can mean better treatment.

                                                                          BrainJoos helps track your patterns, making it easier to pinpoint what you're dealing with.

                                                                          brainjoos.com/?utm_campaign=me

                                                                          BrainJoos helps track your patterns, making it easier to pinpoint what you're dealing with.

                                                                          Alt...BrainJoos helps track your patterns, making it easier to pinpoint what you're dealing with.

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